Beliefs and Thoughts
From our environments and experiences we developed an unconscious playbook about how the world works and how we respond to it. When our playbook provides us with a frame that is no longer serving us, therapy is a place to be able recognize and evaluate our playbook and make tweaks that serve you better.
The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.
Feelings are the Fed-Ex guys that deliver valuable information to us. These packages need to be opened and dealt with or they stack up. Unfortunately, we were not taught and modeled (in most cases) to pay attention to, put words to, to appropriately express, or to take action based on what the feelings are reporting. So, we ignore them, push them away, try to bury them, or project them on to someone else. That’s one of the biggest reasons we develop unhealthy relationships with food, booze, pills, porn, sex, and gaming. Those same feelings can lead to insomnia, digestion issues, headaches, and much more. In therapy, I create a space that allows you to slow down and explore your feelings with curiosity and an openness for the information and wisdom they are providing. Once you understand the messages, therapy allows you to process, identify and learn how to notice and accept new feelings as they arise.
What you resist, persists
Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.
With awareness of their thoughts and feelings, clients have a much greater capacity to master their actions and reactions. With a shift in their beliefs and thinking, new behaviors are relatively simple to create and sustain. Therapy provides a supportive space for clients to brainstorm and work on new habits and goals, discuss their progress, and adjust their trajectory.
Always go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that is going to help you grow.
I meet many clients that are unaware that they have unhealed traumatic injuries. Combat veterans, law and fire personnel, rape and assault victims, and displaced persons are understood to encounter overtly traumatic events that can lead to unresolved wounds. Less considered are the individuals that carry covert wounds from childhood interactions and experiences, abusive relationships, dysfunctional employment situations, motor accidents, and physical injuries. Unhealed trauma can manifest in ruminating thoughts, flashbacks, an amplified startle response, insomnia, attempts to avoid things, isolation, and the need to numb out with distractions and substances. One of the methods I use to help clients is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). EMDR has been well studied over the last twenty years and has been found to be a valid and effective treatment for helping clients heal from trauma. Though EMDR is not suited for all clients, many clients have found relief and healing from this bilateral treatment. Many clients like it because they do not need to verbalize the trauma and they experience relief quickly. You can learn more about EMDR at www.emdria.org or simply contact me to set up an initial phone consultation.
There are wounds that do not show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.
Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral’s Kiss
EMDR is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
There are many types of clients and an ever-growing number of issues that are positively impacted by therapy. Playing to my own strengths, training, and personality, I work exclusively with adult individuals and couples with the following general types of issues:
Binge and emotional eating
Career issues, transitions, and retirement
Empty nest transition
Grief and loss
Life purpose and meaning
Single adult issues
These mountains you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.
And the day came when the risk of remaining a tight bud was greater than the risk of blooming.
Angie is a truly gifted psychotherapist. I have been amazed at the depth of transformation she has provided to her clients. She brings her unique ability to create strong, emotionally safe, and transformative relationships as well as her integrity, intelligence, and compassion into her work. I highly recommend her as a therapist.