What is psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy, therapy and counseling (I use the words interchangeably) is a safe place to talk about what’s really bothering you and to reveal your secrets without having to worry about being judged. It is a space for you to put words to your thoughts, feelings, hopes, and dreams. It is a spot where you do not have to protect your image. It’s a lot like talking to a good friend who understands you, except that I have been trained to do so and use interventions that are proven. I am not the type of therapist portrayed on TV that sits silently while the client lies on the couch and talks. I work with clients in a much more engaging and collaborative way. We usually sit in a chair or on a couch, but I have been known to do therapy while walking with clients. You lead the conversation with no subject matter being off limits. I will listen carefully, ask questions to help increase our understanding, and offer my insights or suggestions. If you want to develop better communication or other skills, I will help you learn those. I want you to let me know what works and what doesn’t work in our sessions so that I can provide a remarkably productive therapy experience for you
Every adventure starts with a first step.
The Chestire Cat
Will it be easy? No. Will it be worth it? Absolutely.
How long does therapy last?
That depends on the goals you have for counseling. I am available for as long as you need my assistance, but I don’t believe in dragging things out once you’ve reached your goals.
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry, you know you’ve healed.
What type of therapy do you do?
I use a wide range of therapeutic interventions and carefully consider which interventions would best help this client heal. I frequently talk over the therapy choices available with my clients.
As a practitioner, I work from a psychodynamic perspective with the belief that our past experiences inform our present in profound ways which are outside our own awareness. I incorporate pieces of Robert Schwartz’ work to help clients understand and heal. I also use positive, cognitive behavior therapy framing to facilitate long-lasting shifts in thinking which result in true behavioral change.
My expertise with couples is grounded in experience and the work of Murray Bowen, Jay Haley, John Gottman, Ellyn Bader, and Sue Johnson.
My expertise with weight loss and emotional eating issues is grounded in my own journey and those of many others that I have helped, as well as the 12-step and smart recovery models. and the work of Wendy Hendry. My healing work with daughters of narcissistic mothers is grounded in Karyl McBride’s work on this topic.
In working with clients with traumatic wounds, I pull from my work with experience working with combat veterans and from the work of Judith Herman, Bessel van der kolk, and Francine Shapiro.
What is expected of me?
Therapy is a substantial investment of time and money. It is literally an investment in your happiness and future. To help you make progress as quickly as possible, I frequently suggest experiments to try or books to read. My expectation is that you take therapy seriously and do the growth work that only you can do. I have an expectation that you will most always complete agreed upon assignments and that you communicate when your resistance to a suggestion is so high that it will get in your way of completing the work. If you cannot attend a session, I have an expectation that you will let me know as early as possible. If you are experiencing resistance even now, I highly recommend the Stephen Pressfield’s book, “The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles.” It is a short, but super helpful read. I listened to it with Audible, but it’s also available in Kindle and paperback versions.
How often do we meet?
Most of my clients choose to come either weekly or every other week. Time, money, and the person’s ability to embrace change all factor into their scheduling decisions.
How much do you charge?
My fee is $100 per 50-minute session for individuals and $150 per 75-minute session for couples.
What payment options are available? Do you take insurance?
Clients pay at the beginning of the session by check, cash, or debit/credit card. I’m sorry, but I do not take insurance.
Do you have evening and weekend appointments available?
Yes, I see clients Monday and Friday nights and Saturdays.
What is EMDR?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a therapy intervention that can help clients feel from trauma faster than traditional talk therapy. EMDR works to remove blocks in the brain and facilitates the brain’s ability to integrate the trauma memories fully. With EMDR, the client does not need to verbalize the trauma for EMDR to be effective. After successfully completing EMDR, many clients report that although they recall the experience, they emotional pain around the experience is gone or has been greatly reduced. Although EMDR is a bit hard to explain, there is a large body of research indicating its effectiveness.
Is what I say confidential?
Having a safe person and place with which to disclose sensitive material is a hallmark of therapy and I take the subject of confidentiality very seriously. However, because I am a mental health mandatory reporter, there are occasions in which I cannot maintain confidentiality. Those occasions are when I believe that you might harm yourself or another and when I believe a child or elder might be being abused.
If you would like discuss the possibilities of working with me, call or email for a no-cost consultation.